One of life”s most cruel arrangements , when it throws two kind hearts in your way , both beat with love and affection, and you just can’t comprehend why this is happening while all you’ve ever wanted is one single honest heart, yet life put you in such a predicament . Moreover what ever you do you will hurt and hurt someone with no pre- intention.
A game of who will be winner and who would be broken into million pieces, one can assume that’s a bless , but it’s far from it , it’s like a knife with two sided blade, it cuts either way. Keeping the two is a lie it only ends with a horrific mess , giving up the two could mean losing a chance to be with a soulmate and be happy a chance might not cross your path again. Choosing between tow heavens never will be a fair trade , all of that entanglement is unjust but it’s part of our dear life treats for the unfortunate chosen one .
shame, shame, shame
A monster, can’t be tamed.
It claws at our souls to wake such a comatic humanity”
Conflicts between family members is something normal , it happens you can’t get along all the time . But it become painful when every body hates every body over small silly things. Like soaks or T-shirts or even who finished the milk .
I hate it when people don’t discuss their differences quietly and with reason , the problem is ; some people think that screaming and using bad language is a sign of strength which it’s quite impossible to reason with ,these kind of individuals can’t hear any one but them selves they go off like an alarm system with no switching pin code.
Family is about love ,caring , sharing and support , if there is a disagreement in any freaking time those values should be placed on the table , why Los a relative because of pride and stubbornness when things could be solved just if we remember who are we talking to , I know it’s hard especially if the other person has hurt you badly or stepped on your feet over and over again , god some persons just so difficult to approach . I have been in this situation many times , but I learned how to keep my anger on a leash I keep on reminding my self that this person is part off me and I can’t hurt my self , can’t I .?!
sometimes I don’t succeed and I really felt horrible after words , hence you through every Rock in your sack at who ever crossed the line, the irony is when every thing cools off ,you feel a shamed and bruised . How can we maintain a balance during those times with out giving the chance to others to bully us or bring our demons out of the bottle ?!
anger , hurt , frustration unappreciated , these are the kind of feelings that runs through us when we have a shouting contest with a friend or a family member ,lover or even a neighbor. it’s a normal reaction at the moment we are built to devend our selves when we feel threatened or have to exceplain our actions .
sometimes we don’t even have anything to do with the setuation yet we get the first hit of thunder so we tend to fire back regardless of the out come . It happened to me many times , but after the outburst all reason crashes down on my shoulders and I ask my self what if :
What if I just listened
What if I just give an excuse to this person .
What if I give a bit of attention and looked beyond my self .
What if this person was just troubled and needed to let it out
What if this person think of me as close that’s why he/she came to me thinking that I would understand .
What if I just handled the setuation with patience .
Defently the result would be much better maybe not at the moment , maybe in a day or two .
the problem with us that we are self centered most of the time it’s a defense Mechanism we don’t like it when someone or something bush our buttons or scratch or walls . Usually we can’t see pass the surface in the middle of an outburst . it would be amazing if we stop a minute, and think , this attack is not meant to be at me especially if I’m sure I haven’t done wrong . Embracing this person reassure hem/ her could make a deference for them and for us as well. just give your pal a chance to let the steam out and cool down don’t take it personally. At times you could be either the last and only Lifeline they had or the last strew that brook the camels back .Be thoughtful, as much as you can.
I have a friend who is always by my side sometimes I loos it With her , she never fought back she just listens tell all my heavy backpacks are on the floor then she will give me a warm smile, pat my back and bring me a cup of coffee then she will ask me what’s wrong?! Like i was waiting for that question .I will just break and spill my heart out . She knew that at that moment I’m haunted with what ever is hurting me and I needed her. So each time I’m frustrated or hurt or even happy I would look for her she is my lifeline and I’m hers. This in my opinion what humanity all about caring , sharing and forgiving . How beautiful is that