anger , hurt , frustration unappreciated , these are the kind of feelings that runs through us when we have a shouting contest with a friend or a family member ,lover or even a neighbor. it’s a normal reaction at the moment we are built to devend our selves when we feel threatened or have to exceplain our actions .
sometimes we don’t even have anything to do with the setuation yet we get the first hit of thunder so we tend to fire back regardless of the out come . It happened to me many times , but after the outburst all reason crashes down on my shoulders and I ask my self what if :
What if I just listened
What if I just give an excuse to this person .
What if I give a bit of attention and looked beyond my self .
What if this person was just troubled and needed to let it out
What if this person think of me as close that’s why he/she came to me thinking that I would understand .
What if I just handled the setuation with patience .
Defently the result would be much better maybe not at the moment , maybe in a day or two .
the problem with us that we are self centered most of the time it’s a defense Mechanism we don’t like it when someone or something bush our buttons or scratch or walls . Usually we can’t see pass the surface in the middle of an outburst . it would be amazing if we stop a minute, and think , this attack is not meant to be at me especially if I’m sure I haven’t done wrong . Embracing this person reassure hem/ her could make a deference for them and for us as well. just give your pal a chance to let the steam out and cool down don’t take it personally. At times you could be either the last and only Lifeline they had or the last strew that brook the camels back .Be thoughtful, as much as you can.
I have a friend who is always by my side sometimes I loos it With her , she never fought back she just listens tell all my heavy backpacks are on the floor then she will give me a warm smile, pat my back and bring me a cup of coffee then she will ask me what’s wrong?! Like i was waiting for that question .I will just break and spill my heart out . She knew that at that moment I’m haunted with what ever is hurting me and I needed her. So each time I’m frustrated or hurt or even happy I would look for her she is my lifeline and I’m hers. This in my opinion what humanity all about caring , sharing and forgiving . How beautiful is that